She said go ahead. Moreover, if he deems maturbation as a private activity, you have to accept his right to decide. Despite what you want to think, I bet he hasn't stopped watching porn - you're just deceiving yourself into believing that he has. Part of the sex includes watching each other masturbate, and of course to orgasm. So we just ignore and avoid them. It's a big turn-on for us both. Don't invade his privacy, you will shut him down.
In many ways, it is the single person who is better off. She also admitted to me that she would use the vibrator while her husband aroused her in other ways which I told her I thought was a non issue. And that is actually quite a miracle with all the crazy medical conditions I have and medications I take that have massive weight gain as side effects. Nup after much counselling from a christian counsellor, a big huge chunk of our marriage issues are purely sexual.
The scenarios go on and on. With the further provisos that it can be a danger before marriage as it can awaken sexual desire that then leads to other sin — much like giving an alcoholic a drink — some people can stop it leading to more, others can not, so why take the chance. If you want real change and healing in a marriage, you often have to forsake the quick fix, go to the Great Physician God and do what He tells you. We were without sex for about a month, but it was 6 days of mutual consent to fast from sex. They discourage talk about sexuality, they discourage joy in sexuality.
So Janice wants to know how to get her husband to open up and talk about watching porn and masturbating. Jenny Jan 27, at 7: Not to say that you should ever be in a hurry to orgasm. So my question is: He went to her, she said, to not touch, just to watch, during the show, she told him that if he ever felt the need to relieve himself in the shower, she wanted to make sure that he was thinking about her, not anyone else. My wife and I are both middle-aged, fortunately still athletic, and have sex regularly.